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Do dads belong in the delivery room?

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Many new fathers are nothing short of awe-stricken by the birth of their child, and cherish their baby's first moments shared with the mother in the delivery room. In fact, ever since Dr. Robert Bradley introduced the concept of husband-coached childbirth in the early 1960s, fathers have been routinely encouraged to be present at their children's births. Yet, now, in what is sure to stir up some fatherly frustration, to say the least, French obstetrician Michel Odent argues that fathers specifically, and men in general, don't have a place in the delivery room.

According to Odent, not only are fathers in the way, but because their presence often makes the laboring mother anxious, they may be interrupting the production of a hormone critical to the birth process. The slowed supply of that hormone, oxytocin, may even increase the chances that a woman will have to deliver by Cesarean section. Odent, who believes that the safest birthing environment involves only the mother and a skilled midwife, told the Daily Mail:

"If she can't release oxytocin she can't have effective contractions, and everything becomes more difficult... Labor becomes longer, more painful and more difficult because the hormonal balance in the woman is disturbed by the environment that's not appropriate because of the presence of the man."

Odent will argue his views this week at a forum hosted by the Royal College of Midwives. He will be challenged in a debate by Duncan Fisher, an advocate for fathers, who believes that men should defer to the women's desire to have them in the room.

Yet, even before the debate, Odent's controversial perspective is likely to generate some opposing views, including those from fellow physicians who suggest that recent increases in C-section deliveries have no correlation with dads being in the delivery room. As Patrick O'Brien of the U.K.'s Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists told Clare Murphy with the BBC:

"What we do know is that there are many reasons why the number of emergency cesarean sections has risen—including obesity, older mothers, and fear of litigation—none of which have anything to do with the presence of dads."

And while the birthing process has been known to make a few men feel squeamish (or even terrified), whether or not they are in the room should be a decision left to the fathers- and mothers-to-be, O'Brien says. He also told the BBC:

"Having a baby together is an intense, life-changing experience that most couples want to experience together. The father can be an immensely reassuring presence for the mother... And as for the suggestion that men won't cope with the so-called gore - well, most of his role can be carried out at the head-end, talking, mopping her brow, offering sips of water. Of course a man shouldn't feel forced to be there, but I have yet to meet one who said after the birth of his baby - 'I wish I'd stayed at home'."

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  • 1

    This brings up soooo many issues! Personally, I think birth should be the mother and father and the medical staff (no cousins or neighbors, there are too many people in the delivery room as it is). As the mother of 3, I have to say I'm glad my husband was there to experience the birth with me - how else would they ever know what you went through? Although he was only truly helpful with the first child's birth, the rest he phoned it in, since he'd "done it before."

    As a nurse, I can say that sometimes fathers are in the way. They shove the video camera in the face of the blue baby you're trying to resuscitate, and ask you to "take that off his face" so he can get a better shot. One time a dad was right in the mom's face yelling, "PUSH! PUSH! PUSH!" She reached up and slapped him, snapping, "YOU push!" (She was going "natural.")

    In my mother's era back in the 50's, the woman went thru the door, leaving everyone behind, and the husband didn't see her again until after she'd had the baby. My mother-in-law's hairdresser came and did her hair in the hospital before ANYONE saw her! There is something to be said for that - nursing research shows a man is never as sexually fervent for a woman again after seeing her give birth. (I'm not saying that's right, just the way some men are.)

  • 2

    No, Dad's don't belong in the delivery room, and neither do birthing Moms. Dad belongs in the kitchen brewing herbal tea while birthing Mom belongs in the cozy living room with a trusted birth-wise woman friend to support her. Of course, that is only when the birthing woman no longer feels up to washing the floors on her hands and knees or to mashing potatoes. Seriously.

  • 3

    Dads most certainly belong to be next to their wife helping her give birth to their child.
    To be there is to participate in and witness a miracle.
    To bring your own child into the world is the most profound experience available to us in this life. As women, we get the lion's share and it is the most remarkably feminine thing I have ever done, or will ever do.
    We've had 6 kids. My husband has been the most helpful, sustaining and integral part of that effort for me to go through the very natural (as well as very painful) process of giving birth.
    I would be upset to the core to think for one moment that a change in medical thought could have excluded him (as was the case for men in the "old days").
    What a priceless treasure it was for him and I to share in the arrival of our children to our family.

    • 3.1

      Please forgive me, truly111, what I really meant is that neither Dads nor Moms should be in the "delivery room." My husband was in the kitchen brewing tea, close enough to see me and did actually receive our baby as soon as she was born. We have had seven babies together and our living-room baby was the gentlest and most peaceful birth imaginable.

  • 4

    brisec, I admire you for delivering at home! I preferred to have the amenities of the hospital - but by number six I was considering a home birth.
    My response was to the article. I just hope that Dads-to-be out there don't feel persuaded to opt out of the experience, "for the good of the mother". Because, as traumatic as it may be the first time, it is life in it's most immediate form - and hey, it's how we all got here. So why not participate and gain that understanding to truly appreciate our Mums.

  • 5

    The article also mentions Michel Odent. His ideas are sensible, and I strongly recommend his books. While I was happy to have my husband nearby, he kept busy and did not watch my every movement. I do believe this profound privacy contributed to the relative ease of my most recent home birth experience.

  • 6

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  • 7

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